It is believed that anger, like other emotions, evolved via natural selection to ensure human survival. Anger may help us bargain more effectively with others by persuading them to place greater value on our needs. Thus, anger may be understood as an emotion motivating us to resolve conflict to our advantage.
The emotion of anger may be primary or secondary. Primary anger can be understood as a response to perceived injustice (e.g., you received a smaller bonus from your boss than you believe your performance deserves). Secondary anger covers over feelings such as sadness/hurt, humiliation, guilt, anxiety or fear. Many of us grew up in families where we learned that expressing anger was more acceptable (or safer) than revealing ‘softer’ emotions such as sadness, guilt or fear.
Anger is data—a message from our body/mind that we are having a strong response to a situation. Anger as data is distinct from angry behavior. If you are reading this page, it’s likely you are concerned about your own, or someone else’s, anger.
Angry behavior is a problem when …
- it interferes with or ends important relationships
- it endangers your job or reputation
- it is the only way you know to communicate your feelings and needs
- it is inappropriately intense and overwhelms your ability to think clearly and make sound judgments
- it results in physical violence or verbal aggression
What is Anger Management Skills Training?
It is not psychotherapy but a form of skills training that teaches how to respond to the emotion of anger in socially acceptable ways and communicate needs while respecting the rights and feelings of others.
How long does it take?
Training takes approximately 26 sessions during which you will gain greater awareness of what triggers your anger; learn coping skills for managing stressful situations; increase your assertiveness; learn skills to prevent acting out; and acquire effective communication skills.
Typically training begins and ends with administration of the Bar-On EQ-i 2.0 test of emotional intelligence which measures such things as your ability to manage stress, problem solve, and assert your needs effectively. The Bar-On EQ-i 2.0 provides a reliable snapshot of your current functioning before training begins and at the completion of training. There is a one-time cost of $150.00 for both tests.
How much are regular sessions?
My customary hourly fee is $200. However, I am willing to slide my fee for those who can demonstrate financial hardship.
Call or email today to schedule an appointment. (310)995-3228